Wiser, Braver. Stronger, Fiercer
Who would not want to be any of those? Lahat tayo gusto ng better version of ourselves, a makeover, naniniwala tayo na ang pagbabago kesehodang kulay lang ito ng buhok, longer eyelashes or bagong hairstyle ay magdudulot ng bagong buhay.
Pero pinakatotoo ito sa mga taong nasaktan na, na-friendzone, nabigo, nakipaghiwalay, na-reject, iniwan. Me mga taong binabago ang kanilang sarili because they feel they are the main reason why the relationship failed, others do it for revenge but the most common thing is fear of getting hurt again. Every woman would do all she can in her power never to be hurt again.
Gaano kasakit ang masaktan?
Naaalala ko parati si Bella sa tanong na ito nung panahong iniwan sya ni Edward, yung scene na naka-upo lang sya, nakaharap sa bintana, tulala at depressed having lumilipas ang maraming buwan. I remember maraming nagsabi nun na exagg daw yung scene na yun, hindi naman nangyayari sa tunay na buhay, sa isip-isip ko lang wala pa syang sobrang nabroken heart na kaibigan.
No woman would ever want to catch herself ever again:
a.crying until she falls asleep then waking up to tears again
b. narrating the never ending story kung ilang beses syang naloko ng dilat ang kanyang mga mata at wala naming kapansanan sa pandinig
c. how much of a fool she has been wearing her hearts on her sleeves while the world watch her being rejected
d. fighting for a relationship na in the end ay one-sided pala
Walang babae ang hindi willing mag-imbento ng selective amnesia pills sa panahong ganito. Pagbabago ang sigaw ng lahat, itapon ang mga walang kwentang emotions, maging strong hanggang magka-pusong bato, pag-aralan ang poker face, at huwag na huwag ng magpapaloko ano mang mangyari, piliin ang mga taong pagkakatiwalaan kung gusto pang matutong huminga sa mundo.
Yun lang ba talaga ang sagot? Me iba pa bang alternative?
Tao ba ang taong walang emosyon? Darating ba ang panahon na walang taong makakasakit sa tin habambuhay? Hindi naman di ba? Since hindi mangyayari yun, I have learned to redefine certain vocabularies in my life.
Since trust is the foundation of love, and there can be no trust without vulnerability, I CHOOSE to see vulnerability as this:
VULNERABILITY -the willingness to bring your defenses down in order to build relationships, trusting the ultimate truth that only God can truly protect and shield your soul.
EMOTIONAL STRENGHT – accepting your God given design and daily holding on to the truth of your indelible identity (made in the image and likeness of God)
Yes women should be wiser and braver but we should not achieve that INDEPENDENTLY. Rather choose the better path of seeing with open eyes all our insecurities and fear and declaring surrender to God and be completely dependent on his grace. Lest we think we can live a life based only on our own determination and discipline.
Dear Ladies, our emotions are part of God’s design for us its not a liability, choosing to have toxic emotions, and daily posting emotion vomit on our status, that’s on us already.
I love how Paul teaches us how to have a version2.0
To put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness. Ephesians 4:22-24
He says put off the old version, throw it out, die to it. Die to your depression, don’t attend your self-pity parties and reject rejection!
How? By renewing our minds (not emotions) through the power of the Holy Spirit (not our discipline or determination). Hindi tayo emotion na tinubuan ng babae, we are women with emotions and minds as well but wait there’s more, we have the Holy Spirit, God Himself living inside of us, we have no excuse not to have what it takes to change.
And to put on the new self, our brand new identity=>created in the image of God. Girl move-on, move on din. Kaya mo yan! We believe in you!
Dear ladies, you already have it in you the best version of yourself, from the very beginning you are made in the image and likeness of God, live out that truth daily, fight for it, cling on to God and submit yourself fully in Him, that’s the only way to fully live.